Sounds like a cool prospect, thousands or even tens of thousands of strangers checking out the awesome details of your wedding shared across the Great Wide Interwebs for all to see. Here you spent months, possibly even years, piecing together the details that would make up your big day and hired only the best vendors to bring your ideas to life and now you are watching it get spread around on social media by strangers at warp speed. Cool, no? Not if the Internet decides to start judging you.
Maybe you thought having a gamer-themed wedding would be a great way to pay homage to your love of video games, or figured outfitting your bridesmaids in varying shades of neon leopard would make for awesome bridal party photos but what happens when your pictures hit the Internet and become a sensation?
In a recent post on Offbeat Bride, Ariel gives some really useful tips on how to handle this situation, starting by giving some examples of previous "looked good on paper" wedding ideas that became fodder for Internet judgments:
- There was the iPad wedding, which made one commenter rant, "If I was the father of the bride who had to PAY for all that nonsense I would have just shot them both in the face and left them united in a ditch."
- There was the Katamari Damarcy wedding, which was first lambasted as too dorky and then caught the attention off a group of anti-miscegenation bloggers who said horribly offensive garbage like, "They made a joke out of their nuptials, but then again, interracial nuptuals are a joke." Those comments made me shiver.
- Then there were the pop culture-laden comic book invites, which made the Tastefulness Police turn on their sirens and decree that it was dated and regrettable within about 15 minutes. One commenter went so far as to say, "That is the most cringeworthy heap of shite I've seen in my entire life. I'm actually going to find out where they're holding it and go and kick them to death." Oh, the interwebs: where a wedding invitation can incite someone to so much moral outrage that it garners a death threat.
So what are you supposed to do if your day goes viral and random haters on the Internet line up to judge it?
Ariel suggests not reading comments, for starters. You see, the Internet is a funny thing and the anonymity it offers makes normal people turn into profane, judgmental freaks (who suddenly lose all ability to spell or write in complete sentences). Maybe your friends are behaved enough not to tell you your comic book invitations were stupid but strangers on the Internet generally aren't that kind.
Another suggestion is to wait it out. The Internet has a short attention span, so the hater flavor of the week today will be long forgotten by next. "Get grounded in the real world," Ariel writes. "Go talk to some real people. Even if you're like 'Oh hi, mailman — I'm crying because the internet called my wedding stupid,' you're still getting out into the real world and reconnecting with tangible reality, where people don't walk up to you face and tell you they're going to kick you to death because of your wedding invitations."
Finally, maybe you should take this sudden hate as an opportunity to look at yourself, your tastes and how those are perceived by people who don't know you. Remember the wedding dance that got millions of hits on YouTube? The couple was criticized for using a song by Chris Brown, who has had his own issues with domestic violence. Instead of getting into a shouting match with strangers over the Internet, the couple decided to levy their new-found fame into raising $34,000 for a domestic violence charity.
Hopefully none of you will ever run into this problem but just in case, it's good to let cooler heads prevail and wait it out until next week's Internet sensation bumps it right off the radar.